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[anna]

Notes from “Happier” (book) by Tal Ben-Shahar, Ph.D.
1. “If we are so rich, why aren’t we happy?”
2. “simplicity is the ultimate sophistication” –Leonardo da Vinci
3. Why do you want to be happy? ---the answer is simple and definitive. We pursue happiness because it is in our nature to do so.
4. A lasting happiness is living with pleasure and meaning. To live a meaningful life, we must have a self-generated purpose that possesses personal significance rather than one that is dictated by society’s purpose, we often feel as though we have found our calling. As George Bernard Shaw said, “This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one.”
5. Being an idealist is being a realist in the deepest sense—it is being true to our real nature. We are so constituted that we actually need our lives to have meaning.
6. Freud’s pleasure principle says that we are fundamentally driven by the instinctual need for pleasure. Frankl argues that we are motivated by a will to meaning rather than by a will to pleasure.
7. We need to gratify both the will for pleasure and the will for meaning if we are to lead a fulfilling, happy life.
8. We should also remember that going through difficult times augments our capacity for pleasure: it keeps us from taking pleasure for granted, reminds us to be grateful for all the large and small pleasures in our lives. Being grateful in this way can itself be a source of real and meaning and pleasure.
9. As Thoreau says, “life is too short to be in a hurry.” If we are always on the go, we are reacting to the exigencies of day-to-day life rather than allowing ourselves the space to create a happy life.
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Anna Yin

《爱的灯塔-星子安娜双语诗选》
<Nightlights> <Seven Nights with the Chinese Zodiac> ...

http://annapoetry.com

[[星子安娜]]

Notes from “Happier” (book) by Tal Ben-Shahar, Ph.D.
1. “If we are so rich, why aren’t we happy?”
2. “simplicity is the ultimate sophistication” –Leonardo da Vinci
3. Why do you want to be happy? ---the answer is simple and definitive. We pursue happiness because it is in our nature to do so.
4. A lasting happiness is living with pleasure and meaning. To live a meaningful life, we must have a self-generated purpose that possesses personal significance rather than one that is dictated by society’s purpose, we often feel as though we have found our calling. As George Bernard Shaw said, “This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one.”
5. Being an idealist is being a realist in the deepest sense—it is being true to our real nature. We are so constituted that we actually need our lives to have meaning.
6. Freud’s pleasure principle says that we are fundamentally driven by the instinctual need for pleasure. Frankl argues that we are motivated by a will to meaning rather than by a will to pleasure.
7. We need to gratify both the will for pleasure and the will for meaning if we are to lead a fulfilling, happy life.
8. We should also remember that going through difficult times augments our capacity for pleasure: it keeps us from taking pleasure for granted, reminds us to be grateful for all the large and small pleasures in our lives. Being grateful in this way can itself be a source of real and meaning and pleasure.
9. As Thoreau says, “life is too short to be in a hurry.” If we are always on the go, we are reacting to the exigencies of day-to-day life rather than allowing ourselves the space to create a happy life.
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Anna Yin

《爱的灯塔-星子安娜双语诗选》
<Nightlights> <Seven Nights with the Chinese Zodiac> ...

http://annapoetry.com

[anna]

10. What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. ---------Ralph Waldo Emerson

11. Happiness, not gold or prestige, is the ultimate currency.

A human being, like a business, makes profits and suffers losses. For a human being, however, the ultimate currency is not money, nore is it any external measure, such as fame, fortune, or power.
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Anna Yin

《爱的灯塔-星子安娜双语诗选》
<Nightlights> <Seven Nights with the Chinese Zodiac> ...

http://annapoetry.com

[[星子安娜]]

10. What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. ---------Ralph Waldo Emerson

11. Happiness, not gold or prestige, is the ultimate currency.

A human being, like a business, makes profits and suffers losses. For a human being, however, the ultimate currency is not money, nore is it any external measure, such as fame, fortune, or power.
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Anna Yin

《爱的灯塔-星子安娜双语诗选》
<Nightlights> <Seven Nights with the Chinese Zodiac> ...

http://annapoetry.com

[anna]

12. As Laurence G. oldt says in Zen and the Art of Making a Living, "Society tells us the only thing that matters is matter-the only things that count are the things that can be counted." The monetary worth of a house is quantifiale; the feelings we attach to our home are not. Shakespeare's Hamlet may cost ten dollars in the bookstore; what it means to us cannot be measured.

13.While we are accumulating material weath, we are nearing bankruptcy in the currency that truly matters.

14. instead of asking "Should I be happy now or in the future?" ask, "how can I be happy now and in the future?"

15. Goals are means, not just ends.
While my argument is that having goals is necessary for sustained happiness, the mere existence of goals is not sufficient. The goals need to be meaningful and the journey they take us on needs to be pleasurable for them to bring about a significant increase in our happiness.
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Anna Yin

《爱的灯塔-星子安娜双语诗选》
<Nightlights> <Seven Nights with the Chinese Zodiac> ...

http://annapoetry.com

[[星子安娜]]

12. As Laurence G. oldt says in Zen and the Art of Making a Living, "Society tells us the only thing that matters is matter-the only things that count are the things that can be counted." The monetary worth of a house is quantifiale; the feelings we attach to our home are not. Shakespeare's Hamlet may cost ten dollars in the bookstore; what it means to us cannot be measured.

13.While we are accumulating material weath, we are nearing bankruptcy in the currency that truly matters.

14. instead of asking "Should I be happy now or in the future?" ask, "how can I be happy now and in the future?"

15. Goals are means, not just ends.
While my argument is that having goals is necessary for sustained happiness, the mere existence of goals is not sufficient. The goals need to be meaningful and the journey they take us on needs to be pleasurable for them to bring about a significant increase in our happiness.
_________________
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Anna Yin

《爱的灯塔-星子安娜双语诗选》
<Nightlights> <Seven Nights with the Chinese Zodiac> ...

http://annapoetry.com