酷我-北美枫

[anna]

From our book club, I got a book “Coffee with Marilyn”.
At first, I didn’t recognize who Marilyn was, but as soon as I started reading I knew whom she was, the famous sexy actress who is easily recongizable for chinese people when her name is written in Chinese characters. Of course, the stories about her have many versions. Most people think she only has S.E.X appeal, but no brains.
The book sent several interview with her, of course through time machine. I was shocked by her frankness and the brave thoughts.
And the truth is sometimes we think we know someone, but we never get to know the real person.
After I read her conversation in the book and the story about her childhood, I believed she was real to herself. At least she tried to and fought to.
When being asked the question: Do you have any advice about marriage that you would like to share?
She answered:
“Yes. I think people should marry for love, and only love, not for sexual attraction or for money. By love, I mean a feeling or an impulse that’s primarily selfless, not selfish. Get to know the person you’re going to marry. Be sure you can make it through the tough times. And one last thing: marriage should be fun-not just hard work and sacrifice, but plain, old-fashioned fun, with a real delight in one another’s company. That’s the kind of thing that lasts.”
When talking what sexuality influenced her, she answered,
“When I was young, I did use S.E.X as a way to seek affection. But you don’t get self-confidence that way. You have to get it by earning respect. As I got older and more sure of myself. I knew love was always a part of them (sexual experiences), though. If there are going to be fireworks, you need love to ignite them.”
She said she never wanted to marry for money and went on the topic:
“Hollywood was based on money. But I never let money influcene my heart, and I never married for it either. Like and love were not the same. I wasn’t going to let money blur the distinction.”
Marilyn died when she was only 36, well before she had really begun to age. Yet the issue of growing older was always on her mind.
When being asked: Did you worry about your own aging process?
“Yes, I did. I didn’t want to get old. I wanted to stay like I was. Because I was afraid that when my face went, and my body went, I’d be nothing-nothing-all over again. I also worried that no men would love me since men seemed to be so drawn to my physical assets. Yet I wanted to be a different sort of woman who attached men much deeper than physical attraction.”

As I read on, I could see Marilyn’s inner world was one of yearning and aspiration: there were so many things she wanted to do and be. But the real world had so many thorns around. On the night she died,
She was lonely and freighted, so she took many pills. Perhaps, she thought, like Shakespeare wrote: “Sleep, that knits up the raveled sleeve of care.” All she wanted was to be mended, healed, and made whole…
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Anna Yin

《爱的灯塔-星子安娜双语诗选》
<Nightlights> <Seven Nights with the Chinese Zodiac> ...

http://annapoetry.com

[[星子安娜]]

From our book club, I got a book “Coffee with Marilyn”.
At first, I didn’t recognize who Marilyn was, but as soon as I started reading I knew whom she was, the famous sexy actress who is easily recongizable for chinese people when her name is written in Chinese characters. Of course, the stories about her have many versions. Most people think she only has S.E.X appeal, but no brains.
The book sent several interview with her, of course through time machine. I was shocked by her frankness and the brave thoughts.
And the truth is sometimes we think we know someone, but we never get to know the real person.
After I read her conversation in the book and the story about her childhood, I believed she was real to herself. At least she tried to and fought to.
When being asked the question: Do you have any advice about marriage that you would like to share?
She answered:
“Yes. I think people should marry for love, and only love, not for sexual attraction or for money. By love, I mean a feeling or an impulse that’s primarily selfless, not selfish. Get to know the person you’re going to marry. Be sure you can make it through the tough times. And one last thing: marriage should be fun-not just hard work and sacrifice, but plain, old-fashioned fun, with a real delight in one another’s company. That’s the kind of thing that lasts.”
When talking what sexuality influenced her, she answered,
“When I was young, I did use S.E.X as a way to seek affection. But you don’t get self-confidence that way. You have to get it by earning respect. As I got older and more sure of myself. I knew love was always a part of them (sexual experiences), though. If there are going to be fireworks, you need love to ignite them.”
She said she never wanted to marry for money and went on the topic:
“Hollywood was based on money. But I never let money influcene my heart, and I never married for it either. Like and love were not the same. I wasn’t going to let money blur the distinction.”
Marilyn died when she was only 36, well before she had really begun to age. Yet the issue of growing older was always on her mind.
When being asked: Did you worry about your own aging process?
“Yes, I did. I didn’t want to get old. I wanted to stay like I was. Because I was afraid that when my face went, and my body went, I’d be nothing-nothing-all over again. I also worried that no men would love me since men seemed to be so drawn to my physical assets. Yet I wanted to be a different sort of woman who attached men much deeper than physical attraction.”

As I read on, I could see Marilyn’s inner world was one of yearning and aspiration: there were so many things she wanted to do and be. But the real world had so many thorns around. On the night she died,
She was lonely and freighted, so she took many pills. Perhaps, she thought, like Shakespeare wrote: “Sleep, that knits up the raveled sleeve of care.” All she wanted was to be mended, healed, and made whole…
_________________
---------------------

Anna Yin

《爱的灯塔-星子安娜双语诗选》
<Nightlights> <Seven Nights with the Chinese Zodiac> ...

http://annapoetry.com