酷我-北美枫

[anna]

Last night, I sent my son to basketball club.

As I watching him play, I chatted with another parent who sit beside me.

I asked how old his son was. He hesitated and thought for a minute, then said, "nine, next month"

Since he looked friendly, so I continued my question, "Then, What Grade is he?, Grade 3, or 4?"

The question seemed a little trouble for him, he thought it again, "I don't know, Hei, Mark, What Grade are you?"

His son replied,"Grade three."

I was shocked ,but I still smiled. "Oh, my son is Grade Two."

But indeed, I wondered what that kind of parent he was that who didn't know what grade his son was.

I suspected another single family again. I have met so many single families these two years. I understand it is hard sometimes to keep a family. But I see a few single families slowly sunk to bad habits and emotion chaos.

I don't know if it is good or bad thing for our community.

I know I should not judge others, but still I wonder how safe my son lives in this kind of society.
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Anna Yin

《爱的灯塔-星子安娜双语诗选》
<Nightlights> <Seven Nights with the Chinese Zodiac> ...

http://annapoetry.com

[[星子安娜]]

Last night, I sent my son to basketball club.

As I watching him play, I chatted with another parent who sit beside me.

I asked how old his son was. He hesitated and thought for a minute, then said, "nine, next month"

Since he looked friendly, so I continued my question, "Then, What Grade is he?, Grade 3, or 4?"

The question seemed a little trouble for him, he thought it again, "I don't know, Hei, Mark, What Grade are you?"

His son replied,"Grade three."

I was shocked ,but I still smiled. "Oh, my son is Grade Two."

But indeed, I wondered what that kind of parent he was that who didn't know what grade his son was.

I suspected another single family again. I have met so many single families these two years. I understand it is hard sometimes to keep a family. But I see a few single families slowly sunk to bad habits and emotion chaos.

I don't know if it is good or bad thing for our community.

I know I should not judge others, but still I wonder how safe my son lives in this kind of society.
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Anna Yin

《爱的灯塔-星子安娜双语诗选》
<Nightlights> <Seven Nights with the Chinese Zodiac> ...

http://annapoetry.com

[ericcoliu]

[[ericcoliu]]

[星子]

Yes. Indeed, there are many social workers for that.


Some of my western friends told me it worked, but some of my Chinese friends said no use.

I had a conversation with a social worker, she told me basically they just listened to the people, identify the problem. Sometimes they work as a bridge for the couple to communicate.

I guess Asian couples fear to open themselves up, so the real communication is not build, that is why they feel this kind of tool is no use.

Lately I also doubt what the message I pass on to my son. I always ask him if he enjoys school, or the events which he attends.

I don't know if it gives him the wrong impression that for life, the only purpose is to be happy. If so, I think I make a mistake. Because in real life, when he grows up, there are many huddles lay ahead. Sometimes he needs to endure, not just to pursue happiness.
if in his mind, happiness is supposed to be in the life, then he will be very disappoint for the real life.

As parents, we surely want our children to be happy, but I think we should not emphase it so much.
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[[ANNA]]

Yes. Indeed, there are many social workers for that.


Some of my western friends told me it worked, but some of my Chinese friends said no use.

I had a conversation with a social worker, she told me basically they just listened to the people, identify the problem. Sometimes they work as a bridge for the couple to communicate.

I guess Asian couples fear to open themselves up, so the real communication is not build, that is why they feel this kind of tool is no use.

Lately I also doubt what the message I pass on to my son. I always ask him if he enjoys school, or the events which he attends.

I don't know if it gives him the wrong impression that for life, the only purpose is to be happy. If so, I think I make a mistake. Because in real life, when he grows up, there are many huddles lay ahead. Sometimes he needs to endure, not just to pursue happiness.
if in his mind, happiness is supposed to be in the life, then he will be very disappoint for the real life.

As parents, we surely want our children to be happy, but I think we should not emphase it so much.
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[温暖的水獸]

[[温暖的水獸]]

[anna]

Thanks 温暖的水獸.

I will change it.
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Anna Yin

《爱的灯塔-星子安娜双语诗选》
<Nightlights> <Seven Nights with the Chinese Zodiac> ...

http://annapoetry.com

[[星子安娜]]

Thanks 温暖的水獸.

I will change it.
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Anna Yin

《爱的灯塔-星子安娜双语诗选》
<Nightlights> <Seven Nights with the Chinese Zodiac> ...

http://annapoetry.com