The Poetry Event brought many thoughts
星期一 四月 28, 2008 12:06 pm
On Saturday Poetry Event, we had a poet who belonged to an community organization which dealed with marriage issues.
She played the movie which they did group counselors for married couples. It involved different background couples and mixed culture.
It was very interesting. Craig, who sit beside me, said many years ago, they also looked for the help from counselors and it worked.
He encouraged this kind of movie to spread the meaning of communication which was crucial to a family.
Some of my western friends told me it worked, but some of my Chinese friends said no use.
I had a conversation with a social worker, she told me basically they just listened to the people, identify the problem. Sometimes they work as a bridge for the couple to communicate.
I guess Asian couples fear to open themselves up, so the real communication is not build, that is why they feel this kind of tool is no use.
Lately I also doubt what the message I pass on to my son. I always ask him if he enjoys school, or the events which he attends.
I don't know if it gives him the wrong impression that for life, the only purpose is to be happy. If so, I think I make a mistake. Because in real life, when he grows up, there are many huddles lay ahead. Sometimes he needs to endure, not just to pursue happiness.
if in his mind, happiness is supposed to be in the life, then he will be very disappoint for the real life.
As parents, we surely want our children to be happy, but I think we should not emphases it so much.